Cocoiv

We been humiliated by a system that wasn’t created of wedlock babies. It was created for babies made because we’ve been with a n*gga 10+ years and hoping that playing wife we’ve proved ourselves. It was established to protect a demographics that looks very different from us,

So often I hear couples say "I'm staying for the kids", but is that always the best thing to do "for the kids"? Before I answer that question with my opinion, allow me to go back a little.

Because folks always assume that I am biracial, or some other colorful blend, I find myself often saying, “Nope, I’m just black.” Then a sting of disappointment hits my stomach and I feel guilty. What do I mean just black? Am I minimizing what it means to be black? Is black not good enough?

I  literally thought because of my birth rite as a black women I  would never face the fear of this desire to conceive not become a reality...

l'll state the obvious - motherhood is life changing. So much so, that it is easy (like really easy) to let it consume you. All of you. It can be a really great thing. Can I be real though? I'm hoping this is a safe place to say... it can be a really heavy thing.